Concerning Life as It Is Supposed to Be

Category: Biography

Dealing with Those Who Differ

Newly moved to Oviedo, Florida, and to the neighborhood of Reformed Theological Seminary, I find the name of Roger Nicole prominent. Only recently have I learned much about him, in the wake of his recent death at age 95. Better words can be found here and here.

Reading his paper, “Polemic Theology: How to Deal with Those Who Differ from Us“, though, has made me wish I had met him.

Dr. Nicole here notes that Christians can be ornery. There is gentleness in that assessment. Pugnacious might better describe it. And while affirming the need to confront our differences, he lays out admirable ground rules for doing so. He says that we MUST ask these three questions in this order:

1. What do I owe the person who differs from me?
2. What can I learn from those who differ from me?
3. How can I cope with those who differ from me?

Terribly helpful insights for dealing with conflict in theology for sure. But I see that an argument in a marriage disciplined by this approach will result in peace and growth. These are really important principles.

A Christian who carries on discussions with those who differ should not be subject to the psychology of the boxing ring where the contestants are bent upon demolishing one another. Rather “The Lord’s servant must not quarrel: instead, he must be kind to everyone, able to teach, not resentful. Those who oppose him he must gently instruct, in hope that God will grant them repentance leading them to a knowledge of the truth, and that they will come to their senses . . . ” (2 Tim. 2:24-26).

Admirable.

Mornings on Horeseback

Teddy Roosevelt was a unique and fascinating individual. David McCullough writes his Mornings on Horseback as an investigation into what made him that way.

As always, McCullough accomplishes the task with such skill that given sufficient uninterrupted time, one might want to finish it in a day.

Roosevelt was nothing if not the product of a strong and close knit family. He was a part of a tightly bonded and mutually supportive clan. Surely he was uniquely gifted and had unparalleled access to privileges and opportunities so beyond most of us that we would never dream of them. (When are YOU planning to take a year off and tour Europe? What, you haven’t planned it?) When he was at Harvard, his income from his father’s estate was nearly double that which the president of Harvard was receiving in income (a massive $8000/year).

Clearly he was a child of privilege and the greatest of his privileges was his family. There was a ‘tightness’ between his siblings and himself and his parents that defined them all. He greatly honored his father and was certain that he would never live up to the standard of public service and compassion his father evidenced. In reality, so greatly did he exceed the stature of his father, that he obliterated it. History now forgets that there was a Theodore Roosevelt, Sr., a man of great public service and vision, who not only weekly cared for orphans at a home for boys, but also was instrumental, among other accomplishments, in founding New York’s Metropolitan Museum of Art and American Museum of Natural History.

Critics might find room to challenge aspects of Roosevelt family life, but whose life would escape such scrutiny? Family life, or its lack, has a profound impact on a child’s life, which is clearly on display here. And it is good.

Given the tendency of many to stand in awe of one of such stature, Geoffsnook asks rightfully about the existence of TR’s warts. There are two ways to skew a biography. One is to set out to smear a man by putting only the worst spin on what he is reported to have done. The other is to present a treatise which overlooks the faults and paints everything in the finest of pastels.

David McCullough never writes about people he does not admire. He admires Roosevelt and is clearly captivated by the power of the entire family. And yet we never get the impression that he is glossing over anything. He is careful to debunk several mythologies about Roosevelt that other, less critical biographers, might allow to stand. He details Roosevelt’s odd neglect of his first wife and child from his later autobiographical works. TR comes across with warts. I retain my trust in David McCullough as a reporter truly ‘fair and balanced’.

There is no moral to the story, no ‘go and do likewise’ exhortation attached to this life. What we have here is a window cracked upon a fascinating person set in a story engagingly, as always, told.

Quiet Inspiration

Barb and I were blessed in college to have as our model of pastor and wife Willard E. (Mike) and Betty Michael. Pastor Mike and Betty loved us and shepherded us in ways we did not even realize then. It was while listening to Pastor Mike preach that I first learned what preaching was to be. It was the open door to their home that taught us, a couple not yet married, what an open and safe home could be like.

One day Pastor Mike and Betty invited Barb and I, an engaged couple soon to be married, to their house for dinner. Joining us for dinner was a couple from Colorado, Dr. and Mrs. Vernon Grounds. Dr. Grounds had been Pastor Mike’s teacher and mentor. Why Pastor Mike felt that WE should meet this couple, I cannot say. What transpired during that dinner is a distant memory. What I do remember clearly is that I left there with a twist on Henry David Thoreau’s assessment that ‘all men lead lives of quiet desperation’. Here was a man who stunned me with what I called his life of ‘quiet inspiration’.

Perhaps that is what Pastor Mike wanted us to gain from that evening.

Shortly thereafter, Barb and I were married. Surprisingly, and thoughtfully, there was in the stack of gifts a book entitled quaintly The Bride’s Book of Ideas: A Guide to Christian Homemaking. Attached to the gift was a card, which we have saved, wishing us great blessing in our marriage.

It was signed by Vernon and Ann Grounds. Photo on 2010-09-21 at 17.13.jpg

Dr. Grounds passed away last week at the age of 96. As I read testimonies about him from men I greatly respect here and here, I’m humbled to think that God granted to me, a nobody with no Christian pedigree, no evangelical connections, no special promise, an evening with a person of such character. And in the short time we had together I sensed what these men knew from long experience. What privilege God granted Barb and I.

Let the following paragraph set the tone, and then read these testimonies for yourselves. Consider the men and women God has placed in your life and long, aspire, endeavor, to be like them.

Vernon Grounds earned his Ph.D. in psychology. He was a certified scholar. But he rarely felt the need to refer to himself as Dr. Grounds. I cannot remember seeing him write the letters Ph.D. after his name as so many scholars are wont to do. That was not where he wished to make his impression. How can it be better said than simply that he was just Vernon, LOP … lover of people.

[Note: for some helpful thoughts on the desire to ‘imitate another’, read here.]

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